Tell me how many quotes do you know about perfectionism?
How many have you said to your kids, your best friend or family members who have been uneasy about taking a step out of their comfort zone?
And, how many have you ignored when it was your time to shine?
“Strive for continuous improvement, instead of perfection”
“There is no perfect, only beautiful versions of brokenness”
“Perfectionism is just an excuse for self-criticism”
“Perfectionism is a slow death”
And one that strikes a cord with me…
“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order”
Now, you know that I could go on and on…and on! But, lets not bother.
I am slowly but surely weening myself off the need to be perfect. At the lovely age of 49 I've decided that it has never served me well and never will, so it's time to say goodbye. It's not an easy task and no doubt I will lapse at times but hopefully it will only be briefly.
I spent my formative years, knowing that I was far from perfect in every way, so of course as I grew into a woman, became a wife, mother, I strived to be perfect in every way.
From scrubbing my house, when it didn't need it to reading a blog post at least 20 times looking for a mistake or two. I can't even put into words the struggles that I had when showing my photography and how harsh I was on myself.
My awakening was a slow process like everything else that I have come to realise has held me back over the years. I listened to my extremely observant daughter pick out mistakes in books by extremely popular authors to viewing other photographers work differently as my skill grew, realising that my work was just as special as theirs.
It was an amazing experience to see myself and work with contentment, instead of criticism and actually quite humbling to realise that I can appreciate myself.
Now, I only re-read my blogs, social posts and emails twice, so you may come across mistakes. My grammar isn't great but I'm getting better.
I sent my completed book off to the publisher after only a few re-reads, there may be an error or two, am I worried or concerned, no because it's time to let go of the need to be perfection and just be me…and I'm certainly far from perfect and bloody grateful for my imperfect craziness.
If like me, you are looking to just be YOU, truly YOU, whether in business or just at home, pop over to my facebook group, FabYOUlous…thehangout
Its a group of women where we all share, support and spread our wings together. Women just like you.
“Let yourself be flawed”